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some days I wake up and think I don’t want my life. I don’t want to have all these responsibilities. I just want to be me. Who am I? This is not what I thought it would be like.
I work 2 days a week and let me tell you, after being home with the kids the rest of the time, I would crawl on my hands and knees to get to work if I had to. I love my kids and my time with them but staying at home with them is way more work than actually going to work. When I go to work I can pee all by myself, have a coffee and a lunch break, and do my work without my kids pulling on my legs, wanting up, wanting to play, wanting to read, wanting to go to the park….
I feel like all I do all day is clean and pick up. It never friggin ends
I want to take my 3-year-old girl places, but she stresses me out so much with her whining and stubbornness that I avoid it. Meanwhile, all she does all day is watch TV or DVDs because at least at home I can deal with her whining without feeling the stares of other people and it keeps her out of my hair for the most part. Why can’t I find a way to enjoy my daughter?? Why can’t I just not let it get to me??
I keep dreaming of my husband’s ex having a freak accident. But then we’d be stuck fulltime with her brats from two of her affairs, my poor cuckold husband. But if they died he would lose it. Damn I need a good fantasy that works for everyone.
At the end of the longggggggg weekend with the steps I almost screamed for them to shut the fuck up on the way to drop them off, they never shut up or stop fighting!
I read books to figure out how I got here and if I should run away. My husband hates it when I read self-help books. It scares him.
Every bad dream (warning, red flag) I’ve had has come true. I think it is time to leave this dysfunctional family behind.
I’ve been a full-time professional, a stay-at-home mom, and a person in limbo.
Working full-time with two babies was easiest. Go figure.
When my daughter was so sick she couldn’t keep down water and the pediatrician was threatening a trip to ER I screamed at her for not wanting to suck on the pedialyte icepop!
sometimes I think I am unfit, and that my husband should leave and take my kids away from me.
but then others days I am fine… I wish I was the mom I had imagined I would be, instead of this one.
I want to take my dog and leave the kids with my husband. Is it bad to dream of running away?
They never stop talking and I can’t stand the sound of their voices after an hour… I feel like the most horrible mom ever. Who hates their own kids?
To the woman who says she masturbates way more than she should…I HEAR YOU!!! Believe me it should not be this way…
I masturbate way more than I should.
stay at home moms really aren’t that happy just so you know!! I thought it would be sleeping late and playing with the kids but it’s all cleaning up after people and getting up before the sun comes up. It’s like I have nothing else to do but wait on them hand and foot!!
My life is so far from what I thought it would be, I spend my “free” time playing out fantsies online.
I once told my friend (she has no kids) after my first child was born that all these women who go on and on about how “wonderful” it is being a mother, and how much they love staying at home raising their kids, and how happy the are………that they are all liars. I thought she was going to pee herself laughing at me.
When I go tot he grocery store I always get “cash back”. I figure an extra twenty here or forty there, he’ll never notice. My husband “tracks” our bank account so this way I always have some spending money of my own.
Sometimes when I’m out with girlfriends I talk them into staying out a little later so that my husband and kids are all sleeping by the time I get home. Then I make myself a snack and watch TV before I go to bed.
Sometimes I have my daughter watch a movie in m y bedroom, just so I can take a little nap.
I am your new bff,September 2, 2009 at 1:15 pm! I moved out of state when I remarried and love my life but feel just as you do! I have posted here many times and this place does keep me sane! girlcapitol@yahoo.com if you want to write… Oh, and just so this makes it to print, the gremlins are coming over tonight and we have them alllllllllllll Labor Day weekend as well! Aghhhh!
There has got to be a way that we like-minded moms can find each other! My life would be soooo much easier if I had a friend like any of you to vent to. I live far away from family and have no friends to speak of, let alone any who would admit to being anything but a blissfully perfect mother with a blissfully perfect kid. I love my beautiful little girl, but she wears me down to (less than) nothing every single day. I LOVE this site. It makes me feel less alone.
Stay at home moms really make me sick. I feel like they look down on us working mothers. They always appear so happy. They really cannot be that happy.
Sometimes when I hear my 13 month old crying from her crib, I fake sleep so my husband will go get her.
I will do the dance of joy when my mother in law leaves this earth….(in secret of course)
I tried helping my husband with his kids but he wanted to show off and do it all himself and be the center of attention with them. Now he can’t handle them and I only get involved if it involves me and I’ve had it with the bad behavior in public. He is so embarrassing. For a smart Ivy League man he is DUMB. He wouldn’t let me teach them either and now they are failing school. If they do one smart thing he thinks everyone should bend over backwards and treat them as gifted like he was. Being treated like that made him a weirdo who does not know how to act in society.I love him but he is such a pain and so dysfunctional. I’m starting to think he is as crazy as his ex and he just blamed everything on her.
My stepson is becoming a sadistic sociopath and I can’t help him because his parental units consist of a nutbag and a marshmallow.
I love sending the kids back to their mother full of sugar and ready to fly.
I tell my boys not to call me all the time when they grow up and I won’t call them every day either, because their dad is a weenie mama’s boy
I found out my best friend’s daughter is gay, too. That is so cool. I feel happy for our happy daughters.
I like to keep my husband waiting when he is finally not preoccupied with the kids and wants me around
I don’t like the fact that my husband calls his parents 3-4 times a week. Why does he have to take time away from me and our two kids to call his parents. I wish he’d just think and make the calls after the kids are in bed…or on his own time.
I thought I’d never make the same mistake again but I did. I married a control freak again and am already fantasizing about moving onl.
I like seeing my husband suffer the effects of never listening to my advice. Someday he will learn what a jerk he has been but right now his rotten spawn from the evil woman are biting him in the ass and I love it. You reap what you sow, and he is finally seeing that he’s created absolute monsters who are idiots.
I flirt online while my husband is all-consumed with his bratty kids who are just like his messed-up ex.
yesterday, I had a bit of the stomach flu. Nausea, headache, achy…just feeling crappy…crappy enough to stay home and call in sick. I went to work because I knew I would get more rest at work than at home with my 2 kids. I only work 2 days a week and it is my savior!
every few months my husband picks up another expensive hobby (disc golf, fly fishing, camping, ect.) and I used my christmas money to join a gym that I never get to go to. sometimes it all hits me that we should have stayed seperated with joint custody and i wouldn’t have a second child but I would have friends!! why can’t he see that I am stressed and need some alone time. His job is 8 hours a day five days a week and mine never stops. I hate cleaning up after everyone all the time!!
DOnt get me wrong, I love my child, but I never wanted children. He is my happy little blessing. But there are days like today where I wish i had my old life, even the one without his father. I invest so much into this family because my homelife was ok but it was not ideal. The sad thing is I want to be with my spouse in a romantic way as much as possible but it seems he is so wrapped up in himself, and that makes me resent the life I have now. I am always tired. I work full time, I even worked this summer ( I am a teacher) just so we would have enough money to take two vactions by ourselves, and we did and that still did not add the spark back. I feel alone, fat, and just confused about it all. I constantly wonder am I doing this right? is my child thriving? but it seems I am the ONLY one worried. Because of all of these feelings, I have decided that I do not want anymore children, and it breaks my heart because right after my son was born, I whispered in his ear i want to give you a brother so you will have a bond i never had with my sister…..
Hello! I am writing to you through your “confession section” because I do not have a direct email…you were kind enough to leave a comment on my blog (sorry I did not link to your site when I mentioned your books, the links are on there now). I am not even pregnant yet but as an already overwhelmed married woman trying to start a business, the idea of adding overwhelm by having a baby sounds like death. I really, really appreciate your “telling it like it is”, which will help me make a more informed decision (which my own mother did not do before having me). I hope to stay in touch and will also be blogging about my “baby or no baby” journey, so please stay tuned…
Best wishes,
Mandy
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I let my kids watch movies first thing in the morning so that I can sleep in for an extra hour or more.
My stepson kept us up all night and when he rose early and came in shouting, “Rise and Shine!” I wanted to rip his head off and swear at him.
Im at the beginning of my pregnancy and am scared to death of the weight gain!!!
Im 3 months pregnant with my first child and am scared to death, Not about having it butt about wut my “down there area” is gonna be like afterwards.
Ive been overweight my entire life and just reached the weight I wanted to be at but am now 3 months pregnant. My twin sis has to kids and weighs over 200 pounds and I secretly use her as my reason to not eat any junk food while prego and work my ass off after my babies born so I dont ever look like her.
I love the books and I love this site. It makes me feel normal.
I have a 31/2 year old and a 1 year old. Both of my children suffer from severe acid reflux. It is rare for me to get more than 3 or 4 hours of sleep at a time. This has been going on for 31/2 years and I am exhaused. I resent my husband. Our daughter sleeps with me (the only way both of us get any sleep with her reflux) and my husband sleeps in the spare bedroom–all of the time, every night. I am the one who is up all night with the baby and sometimes the older child. I work part time and have to go to work like a friggin zombie. I usually nap on my lunch break and skip eating. I want to kill him when he complains how tired he is. He does not even hear the kids at night. Hard to hear anything over his snoring… Just once, for one night I would like to go and sleep in his little nest, take a sleeping pill and put in ear plugs and let him take care of things. That will never happen. We have had sex 3 times this year…not that I really care. Sex is the LAST thing that I want. I have 2 kids hanging on me all day, no sleep and I do not want anyone else to touch me. Sleep is the new sex, don’t you know?
I love my kids though. Even through all of this I try to take in every moment.
My husband worked overnight and that means he’ll be sleeping through the day. As soon as he got home I just tried putting the kids down for a nap because I DO NOT like dealing with them at all. I don’t know when it happened but I’m completely checked out of this family thing. I’d rather be on a Greyhound bus going anywhere but here…by myself…
I feel like my life is invested in my family and my husband’s is invested in himself
I’m constantly cleaning the house, but I never know why. No one cares that the house is clean but me.
My husband says he would trade places with me in a second (I would go to work and he would stay home). I don’t think he believes me when I say “SO WOULD I!!!!”
I like Spongebob.
Sometimes we are too tired to have anything but peanut butter and crackers for dinner. That’s ok sometimes.
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