From the monthly archives:

May 2011

Watching My Baby Grow Up. Sad.

by Trisha-and-Amy on May 24, 2011

My first baby, Sam, was born 8 1/2 years ago. He is changing before my eyes. I don’t know how to deal with his moping-in-the-corner one minute, and calling me “Mommy” the next. For so many years, I looked forward to alone time or date night with a craving deep in my bones. The kids were so little – and I was exhausted most of the time. Now, I find myself wanting to rewind time. I can see it all unfolding before me…he’s almost 9. He’s almost half gone. My first baby.

We had a little gathering Sunday with good friends, and Sam spent most of the time sulking in another room, and I could almost feel him crawling out of his own skin. I secretly followed him around the house, wanting to give him space, but wanting a hug so badly. When he finally crawled into my lap as I was sitting at the table, I burst into tears. I miss my baby, and I desperately love the boy he’s growing into.

I guess that’s what a tween feels like…not a baby, not a teenager, but trying to hang on while still moving forward.

I feel the same exact same way.


Lucky 13…

by Trisha-and-Amy on May 17, 2011

Amy here…

Paul and I celebrated our 13th Anniversary yesterday, and you would’ve thought we won the lottery based on our waitress’s reaction. It was like we were the last couple left on earth! It’s interesting — being in our 40′s now, with a lot of people we know re-evaluating their marriages, their lives, their choices, being married even a medium amount of time feels like an accomplishment.

But what standard should we strive for? Is feeling ‘ok’ about your marriage good enough? Should we work — really take time to study– how to make our unions that much better? I mean, after the kids are long gone, this is what we’ve got. It just seems logical that we’d want to make that ‘thing’ successful. But it’s tough, and I have a few friends right now just hanging on to their marriages — indifferent, even. “If it’s this hard now, how do I know it will get better down the line?” my friend “Sheila” just said to me. “Maybe it’s time for a change.”

I can’t judge that. We all feel ‘eh’ sometimes, and let our partnerships skate for awhile. Maybe it’s just making sure that somewhere along the line, you take a moment to concentrate on the good – and ask “Who is this guy and why is he in my house?” Now that my kids are older, I’ve completely given up on the dishwasher being unloaded. But watching my 6 year-old daughter stare up into his eyes like he’s hung the moon…that’s pretty awesome, and makes me realize that he loves us all a lot.


What?? Santa’s Not Real?

May 11, 2011

It’s Trish… Oh wow, I had a huge conversation with my 11 year old while on the chair lift skiing last month. Or, I should say, my husband did. I was not happy! Our oldest daughter is 11 and really had never questioned Santa. Of course he’s real, she’s the oldest of three, why would […]

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Mommy Break-Ups

May 4, 2011

It’s Trish… I have a friend who is going through a rough time in her marriage. One of their issues was her husband felt her priorities were off. He asked why she needed to spend time with these other women that he knew was not adding value to who she was as a person, and […]

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