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I DO have a favorite kid. And I feel so guilty about it I’m sometimes unfair to her on purpose so no one picks up on it.
I enjoy the rare times I can go out without any of my kids or the times I can talk to my friends about fun stuff. Then going home or seeing them back from school, I sometimes feel “oh lord, they’re going to make me a mom again”.
I hate my husband’s bratty kids and insane ex-wife. My kids are handicapped and a million times better and nicer and more fun and well-behaved! But he ignores them and runs ragged catering to his spoiled rats and hideously selfish ex..
I won’t give up wearing hoop or dangling earrings. I slapped my 11month old’s hand when he ripped one out of my ear. He did it again and I put him in his crib. He is a sweet boy but I feel guilty. I feel so lonely and am isolating. Also – pp depression and went from a teaching career to a stay at home mom.
i have gone about 7 days w/ out taking a shower before! my husband showers about twice a day and I am always trying to get everything together! Sometimes I just rub some baby powder onto my scalp to keep my hair fm looking greasy. Cracks me up when people tell me my hair looks cute!
) ahhh motherhood.
I seriously have gone probably 7 days with out showering before. I am always the one trying to get us out the door on time and my husband showers like 2 times a day…sometimes if my hair looks greasy I will rub a little baby powder on the scalp of my hair! It cracks me up when people say my hair looks cute! I love being a mom but really miss showering!!!
I let my daughter eat fruit snacks and choclate milk for breakfast
my husbands job keeps him away from us every other year. sometimes i get mad at him for not knowing our routine- but really he hasnt been around enough to learn it, I hate being alone.
My toddler pinched me accidentally, it hurt so bad my reflex was to pinch her back. Now she’s crying…
My ex-husband emailed me that he doesn’t think I realize the damage I did to the family by leaving. I think I only partially realize the damage I did by picking him to be the kids’ dad in the first place. When I think of what I could’ve had and that my kids could’ve had a dad that wanted to be a dad, I cringe. What was I thinking?
instead of being happy about planning my son’s first birthday I am stressing it.
I feel as if I have given up way more more than he has and he doesn’t even appreciate it.
When I see that my in-laws are calling on caller ID, I ignore the phone and let voicemail pick-up. I then tell my husband that either: 1. I didn’t get there in time or 2. I was on the toilet! (most likely reading…) This way, he calls them back and he deals with them…
The other day, my 3 year old wanted something to wipe her face with after brushing her teeth and the closest thing I had handy was the pair of panties she wore to bed the night before. She didn’t seem to mind.
I have 4 small boys ages 9, 7, 5, and 4 -which he has autism. I love my children w/all my heart I am a single parent doing this all alone. Every day and night we do the same things. We have to leave by 7:30am or we will be late. Last night for the first time in a wile there father ask if he could pick the 3 oldest ones up from school and take them to the movies. and i said yes. well he forgot to bring back there school bags. so this morning was a night mare by the time he got here and i had to empty them out and re-pack them. I stated yelling at my kids saying very mean things, like I think you should go live with your father for 6 months out of the year. and I can’t stand kids anymore….What the hell is wrong with me???My mom would never of said something like that to me… Did I mess them Up ???Will they ever forgive me????
I yelled “Jesus Christ I just want some sleep” at my 1 month old baby the other night because I was so tired.
hmmm….my story may hit a chord with someone….i was a mom of a special needs child who sadly past away at age 9, a year and a half ago….i am also a mom of a child age 5….i am trying or have tried to be the best mommy i can but…..i continally wonder what the heck is my grieving process doing to my sweet 5 yr old son…..that “that” mommy i always wanted to be is gone and the mommy i have become may be hurting my childs psyche….he often comes to me to tell me its okay…to hug me when i am crying….what the heck? iam his mommy…..he shouldn’t have to be my shoulder to cry on…….gosh, the guilt…….
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I live for the hour and a half in the morning when one is in preschool and the other naps. I can watch TV and get on Facebook! Screw the laundry! It’s not going anywhere!
My son is two years old. I had him when i was finishing school. I literally had him and went back two weeks later and took exams so that i could graduate on time. Fastforward to know, which is pretty much my life now, one big fastforward…its about 10pm, hes laying next to me, his father is in the living room with his friends and i just want to yell all of you get the F*&^$ out of my house! including the two year old laying next to me….Good Lord, I just want to sleep by myself!
I’m a single mother of a 7 year old and a 2 month old. I have been so mean to my eight year old since the baby arrived. I feel so bad because she is such a sweet little girl. She is great with her brother and even helps to change is diaper. Even when I’m yelling at her she just looks at me says “yes mom, I’ll try harder” . I feel so terrible. It’s not her fault that I allowed myself to get knocked up by an absolute looser deadbeat of a man. I pray that she never repeats my mistake and have children without the proper support. It’s so freakin hard and of course I’m trying to be strong but I feel like jumping out of a window with the hopes of having a “DO OVER”
I sometimes resent my husband because he was born a male and thus has no clue how hard life really is. I know that’s not his fault, but his life is so much damn easier than mine!
Thank you for this site. It is really helpful to hear what people are going through. Here is one more confession:
I would give just about anything to have the house to myself for just one day: no kids, no dog, no husband, just me and some damn peace and quiet!
I sometimes have a sitter come for an hour just so I can go (alone) to a coffee shop and sit in peace for a few minutes. It’s nice to sit at a table without my 4 year old climbing on me.
I feel overwhelmed by my first born a lot of the time. she is a beautiful, lovely person, but also very demanding and high energy. I’m just too old and too tired to deal with it sometimes.
I sometimes eat my kids chocolate bars when they aren’t paying attention. I figure I need the mood boost more than they do.
I got my 3 year old a t.v. in his room (even though I was against it in the beginning), so that I could sleep in on week ends and not have him come to wake me up when he got up so early!
I forgot to feed my kids dinner on Saturday. We were going to a neighbor’s party where food was being served. My kids didn’t like the food, so they didn’t have dinner. But they had a big breakfast the next morning.
I sleep in the same bed as my 6 month old to avoid having sex with my husband (this way I actually get some sleep!)
I’ve passed up sex just so I could read in bed.
I did not enjoy breastfeeding. But I was too ashamed to tell anyone not even my husband. I still feel guilty and my son is over 2 years old.
I hate my sister in law (there is a long history). My son was 2 years old before she ever met him and she acted like the greatest “auntie” on the earth. She tried to play with him and act all interested. I cringed when she held him!! Why can’t she just fall off of a cliff?
Ever since my 4 year old daughter taught herself how to change her sisters diaper (about 6 months ago) I have not touched a diaper ! I am loving the free labor and not having to change yet another diaper!
i sometimes hear my kids hitting each other and i dont go in there
I didn’t know that my 7yr old had a project due in the morning until 8:30 tonight (among the other things I didn’t know about this school year). I told her it was too bad that she wouldn’t have anything to turn in. 10:07 I figured out what she could write down herself tomorrow morning before school but only after I didn’t comfort her although she was upset crying in bed. Urg.
i have 3 kids under three and the newest baby, now 5 months old, has probably only had 5 or 6 “real” baths. i usually just wipe him down w/ wipes and call it a day!
I feel guilty when I read my mother’s day cards saying how great of a mom I am since I don’t feel that way.
Now that I am a mama, I feel guilty about living 2,000 miles away from my own mother on Mother’s Day esp since she is getting up there in age. I think it would break my heart f my only dd did that to me…:(
Sometimes in the morning when I hear my 2 year old get up and fall back asleep and let her talk to herself for 30 minutes
My two year old son calls his daycare “teacher” Mom. When she told me I laughed it off, but I’ve never felt more guilty and inadequate in my entire life.
I’m so tired of comparing myself to other moms. Sometimes I feel like I’m doing a great job and other days I feel like I have no spirit. I don’t want my baby to feel my insecurities. I love this website and the books. This site always makes me feel better when I’m down on myself.
When I was pregnant with my first child, didn’t have sex for over 4 months.
I hid my post partum and nobody ever knew. The fact that I could go through something so terrible all by myself without anyone noticing is the reason I keep putting my husband off about having a second child. He thinks I’m just too tired.
I dont always change my sons bed sheets in the night if he pees through.. I just put a towl down and change in the morning!
When I’m able to get some time to myself, I smoke marijuana. It relaxes me, opens my mind, and helps me see things clearly. After these “adventures” I have I feel much more grounded and feel like a better Mom.
I haven’t had sex since the week before my son was born. He’s 11 weeks now. At my 6 week postpartum appointment my doctor gave me the okay to have sex, but I told my husband that the doctor told me I still had some healing to do and should wait a couple more weeks.
I love my daughter to pieces, I miss her like crazy when she is gone, or when I’m at work. Once we get home together – I’m usually tired and don’t want to play with her. I don’t want to hear fussing and crying. I want her to do what I tell her to at all times. I have unrealistic thoughts of how a 2 year old should act. My daughter is a good kid and listens well. If my attitude was better, I wouldn’t have so many unnecessary fights with her. I need to treat her better. I feel like I am this constant competition to be the best wife, mother, employee, friend, sister, ect and I just can’t keep up with it, but I keep pushing myself. I am the one losing out – trying to please everyone else and trying to look good to everyone else. When really behind closed doors – I cry A lot. For me and how I don’t like myself and how I act and I cry for my daughter, how I think I don’t treat her as good as she deserves.
I’m not the happy, fun person I use to be. And now that I’ve gone back to work full time, I’m not a fun, nice mom anymore. I’m sad, tired and much of the time mad – and I don’t know why…
I lie to others when I tell them about ALL the things my daughter and I do together. I try to make myself look good, when really my child is the one losing out.
I have, but not recently, given my kids the day off and we have gone off and done something fun instead of going to school. Shame!!
I only had kids because I knew it would be a deal-breaker for my husband if I didn’t.
I’m really depressed and have been for months.
To the point where I don’t clean, cook or anything.
We are living on fast food and I feel like I’m drowning in a sea of unhappiness
I want to go back to school but daycare is hella expensive and people creep me out.
My 3 and 1 year old just kind of do their own thing all day while I wait for my husband to get off work.
I wish I never had them.
I cannot stand my future step son. He is a 4 year old brat from hell. He gets his way with my fiancee and the in laws because they feel guilty he doesn’t live with my faincee. He has his top 6 teeth pulled out and he is given candy and soda and anything he wants. THey let him play video games and buy him things all the time. They bought him a $200 robot for Christmas. It just makes me sick. I dread the weekends he comes to stay with us. I get onto him about any little thing he does wrong becaue I want him to know I won’t spoil him.
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